Is a sexless relationship worth keeping?

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Registered: 02-03-2006
Is a sexless relationship worth keeping?
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 9:38pm
I am 45 and my boyfriend is 48.We have been together happily for 3 years. We do not live together which is a mutual agreement. We have many things in common- like neither one of us have ever been married before, we share the same religious beliefs etc. We had a fairly active sex life for the first year,nothing wild just comfortable. It began to taper off to where I had to "Ask" for sex or there would be none. He was and still is very affectionate- very huggy kissy, many women would be envious.That is as far as it goes, no sex!! When I question him on this he tells me that "Passion" has left him but he loves me very much.He once told me that he has never been in love with someone that he was sexual with so it seems that he cannot put the two together. Any physical problems can be ruled out- he can perform if he needed to. He is not gay,nor would he cheat on me. Is he one of these people who can live his life minus sex? How should I handle this?
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 7:09am
No, you should not stay with someone who is unsatisfying to you sexually. Simple answer. If you truly think living without sex for the rest of your life is worth it, then he may be the one for you, but there's something very wrong about a partnership where one wants sex and the other never does. It's not going to end happily for you.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 2:09pm

Welcome to the board klynn2006,


Sorry, if it's not sexless by mutual agreement, I couldn't handle it.