Husband's sexual experimentation
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Husband's sexual experimentation
| Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:26am |
After watching "I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry," my husband asked if I wanted to know about his sexual experimentation. I was extremely torn- didn't know if I wanted to know or not, because I knew it would drive me crazy- like I am now. But he just blurted it out- said he'd never told anyone EVER. He said that when he was 7, a little neighbor boy (about age 9) gave him oral sex. He said he didn't even understand what was going on- he was so young. Then at age 11, he and a friend were in the pool and gave oral sex to each other. I was somewhat okay at this point, because he was so young, and at the beginning of understanding sex and puberty... so I asked him if that was all- and at first he said yes, then he said no. He went on to say that when he was in college he was bored one night and logged into some chat room, found out that the guy he was talking to was in the same college town and he decided to go over to his house. When he got there the guy dropped his pants and was ready. My husband said he couldn't do it and just left. Said he wasn't there more than 2 minutes. ..... I am very confused and don't know what to think. If it would have ended with the adolescence experiments, I would be at peace. But the whole college thing?? I know he didn't go through with anything, but the idea of it? He shows no signs of being gay. We have a fabulous sex life, he has 2 kids from a previous marriage and I'm currently pregnant. Was that just experimenting?? Is that possible?

Welcome to the board kristencc,
I would say the thing at 7 with the neighbor boy was abuse, and the other two times were experimenting. Obviously, he didn't go through with it in college. You have nothing to worry about. Don't give it a second thought.
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Welcome to the board kristencc,
Eleven and college sound like experimental to me.... guys (from what I read) are way more experimental than women are with each other. Or women just keep their mouths shut better.
I think you're overreacting......I think this is normal for a male to experiement just like it is for women to do so too. Being curious doesn't mean you're gay. Do you know why his previous marriage didn't work? If you do and it has nothing to do with this I would just let it go.
Thom