Urgent advice needed, don't know what to

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Registered: 08-13-2007
Urgent advice needed, don't know what to
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:54pm

Hi all,

I've just joined, i've been in an on off relationship for about two years with my best friend of thirteen years, we have have a really hard time of it and haven't got on at all for the last six months, he keeps promising things will change and they they either stay the same or he lies to me and things get worse, i'm a very perceptive person and i awlays catch him out, not that i intend to it's just to easy!

We've now got to a point where i am teeling him i want to end things and he talks me around, but this weekend was the last straw he went out and came back in at 6 in the morning and it was the icing on the cake i asked him to go and stay at his mum's, now he wants to know if we are splitting up or going to try and sort things out, i dunno if i can do this anymore, i don't feel like me and i feel like we have lost our friendship on top of it all!

To make problems worse there is a guy i have a bit of a crush on who i kissed and he wants to know where he stands, i'm totally confused, have never cheated on anyone and see this is a warning signal, i even checked by bf's phone the other day because i didn't trust him, he says he doesn't trust me either and i don't see the point anymore as much as it hurts me.

Any comments grately appreciated!

cg

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 4:00pm
Let your boyfriend go; your relationship sounds like it's beyond repair and probably not worth putting any more effort into. You deserve better than lies. The fact that you're already looking for other men is testament to the fact that you're not really in this relationship anymore. For both of your sakes you should end it and move on.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 4:22pm

Welcome to the board goddess_cg2000,


"i don't see the point anymore" I think this pretty much

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Registered: 08-13-2007
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 5:15am
i know your both right, it's just so difficult, we both love each other which is the hardest thing, it so difficult to admit that even though you love the other person you know you can't make each other happy, it's even more difficult when you have been best friends since the age of thirteen years old, i feel like i'm losing everything not just the relationship you know x