Can we be "Just Friends"?

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Registered: 04-16-2007
Can we be "Just Friends"?
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 5:31pm

Hello!

I have a simple question. Do you think it is possible for a man and a woman to be "just friends" when both are very attracted to each other, both have feelings involved, and both like each other very much?...............and now both parties have let this be known?

Both of these people are married with kids (obviously, that is the problem here) but both man and woman said they'd rather see each other then not, and are "just friends".

They have told each other they'd marry each other if they weren't married, when trying to "avoid" each other, they told each other how they missed one another.

Thoughts?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 5:40pm

Welcome to the board rainydayssuck,


If either party has romantic feelings for the other, being 'just friends' will be impossible.




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Registered: 08-03-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 6:22pm
I don't think its possible to be just friends in this situation. I also think it is dangerous to your marriage. How would you feel if your husband were doing this?
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 6:48pm
No, that's an affair waiting to happen. I assume that if the respective spouses found out about their feelings, they would not be too happy. That's not a real friendship.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 4:06am
If your spouses don't know about 100% of this right now, you are already involved in an emotional affair, IMO.

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Registered: 08-15-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 11:12am
noooo wayyy!! you cant "just be friends" never if your attracted, and into eachother.. and want to see eachother... there is NO way you can just be friends. too many feelings... and that attraction! thats not fair to your families! i suggest you cut them if you love your family..and dont want to risk ruining it!
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 2:56pm
I agree with the other posters. There is no way to be just friends in this scenrio.
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Registered: 04-16-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 6:12pm

Thanks for your thoughts. But question. Don't you think if something was going to happen, ie, a move, it would have been done by now? It has been going on for a year. Just a thought?

Thanks,
rainy

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 6:47pm

I disagree with the others.

I have/had long-term friendships with others that I/we have romantic and/or sexual feelings for (and vice versa).

I have the self control not to act on feelings and or urges as do my friends.

I just wanted to give you a different opinion.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 7:48pm
not necessarily in an EA

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Registered: 08-15-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 8:49pm
ohh ok! well ... thats different.. you 2 can obviously keep it under control. I mean, I dont see why its a problem as long as you guys dont cross the friendship line...! And as long as your true to your families...!

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