Whats he thinking?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2004
Whats he thinking?
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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 11:09am

Hi- I wrote here about a month ago about how my boyfriend wanted a month break and then sit down and talk things over. Well it felt like the month from hell, but here I am a week after the month.

I sat down with him last weekend and talked about our relationship with him. I first wrote a letter because i thought that i would come across better and have my ducks in a row. When we got down deep into the discussion it seemed that he was really scared about how I would be now.

Brief history: my last 3 months of my life has sucked very much. I lost my job twice, ran out of money, had a roommate back out on me, and had no parental support from my parents... just criticism and harsh words passed. My boyfriend stood by me till the end but it also took its toll emotionally. I became a different person, very negative, down, just hating life and took everything out on him without realizing it.

Back to my story, so he was really scared that i would go back to that. I recently got a roommate and a job and feel more secure then I have in the last 3 mths. He said that he couldn't handle that pressure and that he cares more for me than he does himself, which is why he is down to his last dollar, because he helped me through that period even though I didn't want him too. The reason for this "break" was because he was down to his last dollar and emotionally drained it seemed.

Now he was talking about how he hating hanging out with me because i was always frustrated and pissed off easily, I wasn't exactly a joy to be around but he stuck around anyways. So he seemed to push everything aside from this conversation and just focus on that subject. I told him I have changed and realized what I had done, but he couldn't see how someone could change that fast.

Then I asked for a second chance and he wasn't sure he could give it to me that he wasn't sure he would feel like he did before. But that he would try and well see what happens. We went away to Cape Cod this weekend and it was the best weekend we have had together since I dont know when. He kissed me in public, it felt like everything had fallen into place. Now he kisses me goodnight and tells me how much he likes me, when he would refrain from doing this before.

We seem to be back to normal, but for the life of me I cant understand what the real reason would be why he wanted a break. Was he scared that he felt that much for me that he would put me before himself? I just don't understand? He originally told me he needed this break to fix himself and get his life in order but the reason seemed to change as the month passed.....

Any Ideas?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 1:25pm

Welcome to the board sweet05,


Here's your previous post for others:


PLEASE HELP ME....so sad... :( :(


I'm not sure I follow as I see these 3 different things:


--I became a different person, very negative, down, just hating life and took everything out on him without realizing it. - so he was really scared that i would go back to that.


--Now he was talking about how he hating hanging out with me because i was always frustrated and pissed off easily, I wasn't exactly a joy to be around but he stuck around anyways.


--He originally told me he needed this break to fix himself and get his life in order but the reason seemed to change as the month passed


Feelings can change daily.