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| Fri, 08-17-2007 - 3:16pm |
Hi before you read my problem i understand this site is for woman but I could not find any other sites that would help me on this problem and as you all are ladies
you will probs be able to help me more which i hope you can and thanks for reading....
I had been going out with my girlfreind for 5 months. she is nearly 19 and im 22 and a few weeks ago out of the blue she said that although she loves and cares for me loads , she feels she wants to live her teen years again as in go down town 3-4 nights a week, have a dance a flirt cos thats what most teenagers do. right? But She wasnt sure if it was just a phase so we decided to go on a 2 week break so she can find out if town life is what she wants.
Anyways 4 days into the break i was feeling really down. not sleeping and not eating much.
so on the 5th night i met up and told her i cant carry on the break and that i wanted to no where i stand. So we decided to call it a day. we were obviously upset and she told me that she loved me always and that i shouldn't forget that.
Anyways i really want her back, I miss her so much but I haven't told her this cos i dont want to become in between her feelings or make her feel guilty.
her best m8 split up with her b/f a few weeks ago as well and i get the feeling her best m8 has put her in an awkward position asking her to go out all the time.
anyways its been 3 weeks today since we split and i still miss and love her loads, ive seen her a few times but not much as we are letting things cool down. she said she's really enjoying the single life but she keeps saying it like she has to prove it and my mates have seen her down town a few times looking upset and miserable. she dosent really talk much when i see her probs cos she feels awkward. do you think I should move on and see mnaybe in a couple of months she we might get back together or should i tell her im finding it hard after 3 weeks is their any chance of us getting back together? PLEASE HELP

I would seriously suggest that you accept the end of the relationship and move on. You are both very young and she wants to be out having fun - she's actually right, that's exactly what she should be doing at 19 (I'm a 39 year old woman, so I know)! There is plenty of time for serious relationships, it's a good thing she wants to be out living life before 'settling down'. However, there is no need to despair, there are plenty of other girls out there - loads that would love to be in a relationship with a nice guy like you!
You should try to have as little contact (none if possible!) with your (ex) girlfriend so that you are able to get over your feelings for her - seeing her and talking to her will just make it harder to move on.
Remember - plenty of fish in the sea!
Good luck!
Coolas