He moved on.. im urgued to call him
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| Sat, 08-18-2007 - 11:01am |
I broke up with my x boyfriend about 2 months ago due to the fact that i was become unhappy with the relationship and began to get bothered with the "close' friendship him and his girlfriends were having. We stopped the communication for about 2 weeks. I began to get private calls on my cell back to back everyday for the past 3 weeks. Came to find out it was him calling and not saying anything. In honest truth i missed him dearly. One night we saw each other exchanged hellos and went our seperate ways. He called he that same night and we hooked up. Ever since then began slowly speaking again, but nothing was confirmed about our relationship. Meanwhile during the break i met someone who i enjoyed hang out with but made it clear to him i didnt want anything at the time.
Yesterday my new friend and I went to play volleyball at a park and from a distance i saw my x's office mate notice me. I felt uncomfortable but went with my evening game. I got home and say my x call. He called again private and than not private insulting me with all words possible. He told me he was now going to move on an get back with his 1st girlfriend before me . He told me to leave him alone that he was going to take this matter perhaps a restraining order... I do fill slightly guilty letting him back into my life but i still care for him but i wasnt going to limit myself from meeting new people.
That same weekend I went to a lounge with a group of my girlfriends and i saw him walk with his "ex" (the new girl friend) hand in hand. I was mortified. It killed me inside to see him move on so fast especially a girl from his previous past. I never have felt a knife through my chest the way did that night. I went with my entire evening as if nothing bothered me. (INSIDE I WAS DYING)
As the end of all this, i do admit in some parts of the past relationship with my x, i have made mistake and was selfish. But at times i felt that the realtionship was begining to become an emotional abuse. There was to much pride on both sides. Its been hard to move on and remove this guy from my heart. Someone who we went through good and bad moment,and we experienced a 1 month pregnancy together.
Ive been going out with girlfriends that have been very supportive in helping me through this.
A week later my girlfriend had a conversation with them and he told her that i just need to move on. ERRRR......
For the last couple days if been feeling down with the urge to see him, call him, but with his last statements over the phone i dont have the heart to do so. I MISS HIM SO MUCH. My girlfriend give me the advice to call him and meet him over coffee to get some closure. Again.. i feel that by me doing that...im looking into getting a rejected response to the invitation.
If I were to have it my way i want to talk to him over dinner or at a park and really work things out.
PLEASE HELP.........

You do need to just move on. You broke up, he's moved on from you; you don't get to just have him back whenever you want because you feel like being in a relationship again. It's over, deal with it, realize you miss the relationship and the times you had but there was a lot of negative stuff that is not going to be different if you get back together.
Just leave him alone, don't contact him at all and let him have a happy life while you try to do the same.
Welcome to the board dn1250,
You might want to follow the link below my name to the Breaking up is Hard to Do board here at iVillage.
It seem that a part of you is telling you that you have done hime wrong and you wish you could do all over what you have done. If that was not the case you would have moved on. The fact that he is still on you mind tells me that is worth the fight to get back. You write about the bad he has done, but I am sure he has done great things as well. If you truly love him, you should call him, or e-mail him and try to get him back.
True love is hard to find and if you believe that he truly loved you, then you should do all in your power to get him back and not worry about rejection.
You should watch the notebook if you have not already for some insperation.
Carla