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tired of fighting
| Mon, 08-20-2007 - 2:56pm |
my husband and i have been married for almost 1 year we have 2 small kids and weve been fighting alot. we been going to marriage counseling for 3 months but nothing has changed. i put him out last week and i dont know whats going to happen to my marriage. i dont work and i dont know what im going to do? i want to work it out because i love him but he's so angry im just so tired of the fighting he's so unpredictable i think he might be bipolar he has bad mood swings please help me

First, find a job. You need to be able to support yourself in a marriage and out; relying entirely on someone else financially is a setup for disaster. No matter what you decide to do, you need to be in the working world and supporting yourself.
Try finding another marriage counselor. If you both want to make progress but you haven't, it's time to find someone else who will actually help you determine what you are fighting about and help you find a common way to have disagreements so they don't turn into fights all the time. Learning how to talk in one another's language is one of the most important parts of any relationship.
Does HE want it to work out as badly as you do? I'm sure he's tired of fighting too, and two people who constantly fight should not be together especially if they have children. I really hope you can resolve this.
I think we need a little more info. Does he realize that he has a problem or does he blame you? Are you not satisfied with your counselor or do you feel that you and your husband don't follow through with the counselor's advice and that is why things are not improving? What do you fight about?
What is in the best interest for the children? Can you take them to your parents' house with you until your husband sees a Dr?