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Am constantly annoyed with DH
| Sun, 08-26-2007 - 3:56pm |
I've been married for 19 years. We have two small children (5 and 3). My problem is I'm constantly annoyed with anything my DH does, lately. It's driving me crazy. I never used to be like this. He's done some things over the past few years which have angered me greatly. We have since ironed out those things and he has been basically a model citizen the past couple years and is trying very hard. The trouble is that I can't seem to get past the anger. I don't have any trust issues, it's just that everything seems to annoy me. It's like the things he's done our whole marriage all of a sudden make me so mad. Little things like how he loads the dishwasher, etc, stuff all DHs do wrong (lol). These things seem to all add up and affect my whole day. I realize this is all me, he has apologized for the past, has not repeated the things, and is just patiently waiting for me to get "back to normal". I think it's a vicious cycle of me being so angry that he (in my eyes) destroyed our perfect relationship. We have been absolutely best friends since 1983 until a couple years ago. I don't understand how I can be so unforgiving. Has anyone else gone through this or have any suggestions. I just want my best friend back and have the relationship we had from 1983-2005. Any help would be terrific. I feel so lost and sad about all this. Thanks.
Edited 8/27/2007 12:19 pm ET by candygrabber
Edited 8/27/2007 12:19 pm ET by candygrabber

Welcome to the board candygrabber,
I think the best thing you can do is see a counselor to help you figure out how to work through this.
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Why don't you try finding one for yourself? I'm not a counsellor but if I had to guess, I'd guess that you are holding some bitterness. Kind of like you are trying to make his life miserable for the misery he has caused you. Thats just a stab in the dark. I've done that kind of thing before bc I feel like its not "fair" that he can screw up, be forgiven and I have to pay the emotional price. Especially when I never do anything to hurt my DH...if that is the case, then it'll be hard to work through on your own. Remember, counsellors are there to help us work through things...we could probably do it all by ourselves but it usually takes ALOT longer, LOL.
Good luck,
Dee
Welcome to the board candygrabber,
The thing with resentment is that it doesn't JUST go away. It has to be dealt with.