I was put out pregnant in the rain

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Registered: 05-31-2007
I was put out pregnant in the rain
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Wed, 08-29-2007 - 12:47pm
I just wanted to get some opinions from some people on my current situation...I am 22 weeks pregnant, and I dont' live with my boyfriend but I stay over at his place from time to time...Last night (Tuesday) when he got off from work I was there and had prepared dinner for him. The day before that, (Monday) I had wrecked my car, and the A/C stopped working due to the accident. While watching TV he got a phone call from an old friend saying "SHE" was in town and wanted to see him. I was in his bed stressing and crying about my car, and other things on my mind, and he comes and tells me that I need to leave because he is having company. Not only am I shocked, but hurt as well. It was pouring down rain last night, I was in tears, 5 months pregnant, recovering from car accident, and he tells me to go get in my car with no A/C in the rain and leave for his "FRIEND" to come over....I would just like to hear some opinions from other people telling me their thoughts
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 1:15pm
Who is "SHE," and why are you still with this inconsiderate, mannerless jerk who prioritizes another woman over the mother of his child?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 1:44pm

I had to reread your post to make sure I read it correctly. You did write "boyfriend" and not "ex-boyfriend" - so you are theoretically still with this guy? WHY? If he doesn't care that you were in a car accident - that even if it was a fender bender could have caused complications with the pregnancy then he's insensitive. If he's play romeo behind your back with another woman (the ONLY explanation, if she was a friend - he could have introduced you and there was no reason for them to be alone) then he's a cheater. So basically I don't know a single woman who would continue a r/ship with a man after this kind of behaviour. What is it that gives you that makes you put up with this?

Seriously think about this - do you want this man treating your future child this way? He's well on his way since he already treated his unborn child this way!

Good luck,
Dee

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 1:45pm

Welcome to the board mommy2b2008,


Okay, if she was really just a "friend" you won't have had to leave his house so she could come over. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone that cares so little for the woman carrying his child?

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Registered: 05-31-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 1:52pm
I dont know whats wrong with me, thanks for the input, I really needed it!
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Registered: 05-31-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 1:56pm
Thanks for the input, I need to hear it to remind me of how stupid I am! Thanks
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 1:59pm
You are NOT stupid, you're just used to looking at him in a certain way. This week he's given you another way to look at him, and it certainly shows him to be a person who doesn't put you and your child first in his life--and after you had gone the extra mile, preparing dinner, etc. You deserve much better than this guy. I hope you will let him GO.
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Registered: 05-31-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 2:17pm
Unfortunately u read the Board correctly..I dont know what is wrong with me, i cant believe I put up with that type of crap...I've even began to get more depressed! Thanks for the input, I really appreciate it!
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 2:30pm
A man who deserts a woman who is pregnant with his child is the lowest scum on the earth. If you don't rid your life of him - FOR GOOD - you will be very foolishly inviting disaster and more drama and complications into your already-complicated life. Don't ever allow a man to treat you like that. Focus on your own life and your own priorities without him, don't cause yourself more unnecessary hurt by caring about what he does with his life now. He's a sad excuse for a man.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 6:51pm

It is time to stop being the victim. Do what is right by your child. If he is sleeping with another woman and hasn't dedicated himself to you then I don't see how you two can raise this child together.

Questions;

Is he excited about the child? Are you two planning for it together? Are you two exlusive nd is this the first time he has seen another woman that you know of? Did he tell you that they are just friends or did he not even try to play that game?

be the mature one here for your baby. Do you live alone or with parents?