update :)

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Registered: 08-22-2007
update :)
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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:24am

i posted this message about a week ago and the responses i got back helped out soo much in making my decision! so i just wanted to give an update on the situation.

Original message:
i have been dating my bf for about 4 months now. i am 20 and he is 27. i met him where i used to work. now, i have gotten to the point where i stay at his house almost everynight. i feel like i rushed into things. but theres more. he drinks almost everynight. sometimes a whole bottle of wine even. it is out of control. he has gotten in trouble for drinking about a year ago. i always tell him it bothers me and he says he knows but never quits. he always does it when im not around so i feel like i am pressured to always be there. he has an okay paying job, but he spends his money on things he doesnt need. for example.. a new computer, instead of paying bills or saving any of it- he doesnt even have a bank account. he hardly ever pays for me, or does anything for me. i feel like im stuck. he says he loves me so much but i dont see it. another thing, there is a guy i met at my new job and i have a crush on him. he has asked me to go out to lunch with him.. i feel so confused. i dont want to leave my boyfriend and have him go completely out of control, but im just not getting what i need out of the relationship.

***Well... 2 days after i wrote this, the same things were still going on. i went to lunch with the new guy and had the best time ever. he paid, opened my car door, everything! it was a big eye opener on how i should be treated and what i was settling for. I broke up with the other guy, and felt the biggest sense of relief! im taking things slow with this guy now but he has already done more for me than the other one did in 4 whole months. he has even met my family, which the other one never did! im so happy now!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: lucky72007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:01pm
It's nice to hear happy stories, thanks for sharing. :0)



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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: lucky72007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:15pm
Glad to hear you are happy. Thanks for the update.
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