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Here's a new one - Jehovah
| Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:58pm |
HELP! My boyfriend and I are deeply in love, HOWEVER, the one thing standing in our way is that he's a Jehovah's Witness and is forbidden a relationship with me, who is not. I've been trying to learn more about the religion but frankly, if a religion says that it's customary to SHUN your OWN FAMILY for BREAKING THE RULES, I find that to be completely ridiculous. Unfortunately, this is how he's always been brought up so he's kinda "brainwashed". I love this man more than anything and would do anything for him but he does not have the courage to stand up to his family (he's 36!). He's told me that he'd rather his mom THINK that he was already happy instead of breaking her heart. HOW CAN I COMPETE WITH THAT and what on earth do I do?

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You can't compete with that.
Unfortunately this guy has chosen his future and it doesn't have you in it. As long as he chooses this religion, he won't be able to have an honest relationship with you.
If you aren't willing to convert for him and buy into the whole lifestyle then I think you should call it off. There are some things you just can't compete with.
Walk away.
If someone has a strongly held belief that you cannot accept, you are incompatible, regardless of how much you profess to love one another. All you will do is get heartache.
Move on now.
Ouch.......yes, I did mean that over-romantically but he's such a huge part of my life, I can't imagine it without him. I KNOW what I SHOULD do but I also know what I will most likely END up doing and they definately aren't the same thing. I appreciate your advice, thank you.
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You know, I have to question just how dedicated he is to his beliefs.
What things aren't permanent? Is he waiting for his parents to die, or for you to convert to his religion? I imagine his parents are around 60; they could have many more healthy years ahead of them, and I haven't read anything that leads me to believe you'd be a willing convert.
Even if you DO manage to make a life together, give some thought to what happens when you have children. Most parents strongly and instinctively want to raise their kids in the religion they grew up with--what will you do then?
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