confused about no sex

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2007
confused about no sex
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Fri, 08-31-2007 - 7:39am
HI im 19 and have been with my boyfriend of the same age for 2 and half years we were each others first sexual partners and enjoyed great intimacy and discovered alot through eachother. However for the past 6months or more my boyfriend just seems disinterested in any sex or foreplay at all unless its me preforming a single act on him?? When we do have sex it is amazing and both enjoy it yet i always have to make the first move and often when i do he makes me feel guilty by refusing and saying its not all about sex and i want it too much, yet we only do it once a month at a push anyways! I love my boyfriend very much yet when i talk to him about he first said he was just being lazy and would put more effort in yet now he just says hes either tired and our libidos arent matched or not feeling very well or he ahs masturbated that morning and now isnt horny or the act of sex itself will make him too tired. I just dont know what to do im feeling really fustrated yet feel i cant push this subject anymore. Please could you offer me some insight ???
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 12:41pm

Welcome to the board psychedelicmon,


I can understand your concen and

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 12:51pm

I agree with Carrie. He is either just making excuses or replacing you by masturbating. Either way, it is not a good sign.


You said that this started happening in the past