Love or Lust?
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| Sat, 09-01-2007 - 6:55pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I feel like I am in love with him, but people question that because of how young I am and the little time we've been together. I want to say how prejudice and irritating it is. An-80 year old can get married within 2 weeks without any word of protest from loved ones while an 18 year old gets the lecture of a lifetime.
The only thing that concerns me is sex. I believe that sex can cloud judgment and confuse feelings but, his value to me hardly touches the subject of sex. Every single thing about this man is so sexy. Nobody who loves someone can honestly say that there isn't a single thing about their lover they don't like. Like for me one thing he does is speak with this southern accent sometimes that gets on my nerves so much (no offense to those from the south). And yet, it's one of those things that makes him him. I can't stand being away from him, I call him every single day. When he's upset about something, I always feel it's my fault and try to make it better even when I had nothing to do with it whatsoever. I try to be patient with him and kind to him. He's my favorite person to spend time with more than anybody else. We've nearly broken up several times and I am such a sobbysop every time. Maybe that means nothing, maybe it's something I'm just laying down the facts.
I just want to know what is everyone's opinion about my situation. And if I'm proven to no be in love with him, how will I know when?

Welcome to the board cece,
I was with my first boyfriend from 13 to 19.
I have dated one guy when I was 12. He usually was sweet to me but treated me like crap when his friends came around. More of a go along with the grain type of guy. I ended up kick his ass and him to the curb.
The other I probably had interest in him because nobody ever was interested in me romantically. I was so flattered I started to date guy #2. But he was one of those trifling guys who depended on checks in the mail, smoked, and burned up if the sunshine touched him. He never wanted to go out and do anything. I like to stay home sometimes and chill like the rest of the world, but not like him. Oh yeah and the sex thing too, it's all he wanted and he was very good at begging.
There was this other guy too. The only difference is I didn't dated him. But I was in love with this boy for over 7 years. Not the typical "since we were kids" ordeal but still pretty long. I've done very drastic things involving him I don't wish to repeat. I'd call that a hunt more than an affair most definitely. The point is he didn't want me despite he knew how I felt about him. In fact, he tried to take advantage of me in the manner of humiliating me only.
Yet there isn't enough moonshine in the bootleg barn to make me think that my past 2 "relationships" were even concerns. This is my first real relationship.