Why did he slap me?

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Registered: 01-28-2008
Why did he slap me?
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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:30am
I am 35 and my boyfriend of 5 years (on and off) is 44. The reason on and off because of his drinking problem and his selfish ways.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:52am

Welcome to the board luvbudgies,


Don't make excuses for him because he was drinking. He hit you and it doesn't really matter why he did it. The fact is he still hit you.


I would reconsider the relationship if I were you.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:11pm

He slapped you because you let him. You won't leave after years of abuse and drinking so he knows he can taking his problems out on you and you won't leave.


Are there any children involved?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:36pm

Welcome to the board luvbudgies,


He slapped you because he's abusive.

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Registered: 09-13-2007
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 12:52pm

If you think

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Registered: 01-30-2008
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 9:39pm
Ok...first off...i've been through this EXACT same relationship situation...i'm telling you, he will never change and things will only get worse. I'm speaking from experience. The first time my ex-boyfriend slapped me, he was so drunk he claims he doesn't remember so of course, because i loved him, i forgave him. Bad move. Once you forgive him and let him know that it is ok to slap someone when you are drunk he will just keep doing it. The more he would come home drunk and i would argue with him for being drunk the more physical he would get...it started off slow, only a few slaps here and there, but then it escalated into something way worse! He was pulling knives on me and strangling me...it was horrible. I started to feel so awful about myself. The next day after sobering up he would love all over me and tell me how sorry he was and that he was going to get help and that he would never do it again...well of course the next time he came home drunk sure enough i was going to get physically abused. If he can slap/hit you once, it is in his blood to do it again. Because for him to even have that though of hitting you means he doesn't think it is that big of a deal. I know you have a lot invested in this relationship, as did i, but i swear to you that i am SO MUCH more happier than i ever thought i could be now that we aren't together. I had to toughen up and realize that i didn't need that. It is not only physically abusing but emotionally also. It is not worth it! THEY NEVER LEARN! They will lie and swear up and down that they won't do it again, but they always do and it always gets worse. The man who really loves you will NEVER lay a hand on you. I don't care how upset you guys are at each other!