Filed, but living together??

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Registered: 02-01-2008
Filed, but living together??
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Fri, 02-01-2008 - 3:51pm
My husband and I hit rock bottom this year. We have two beautiful boys and a house that could be quite nice if he had tried to help fix it. We have been to counseling together and separately. He has problems with his weight and, subsequently, his health. He also deals with depression and anger, which is explosive at times. He had his own business, which he destroyed and has been in and out of many jobs.
I finally went to a counselor who helped me to realize this relationship was going nowhere. I decided to file for divorce, and told him one week ago today to leave for a couple of days. He is now staying at his parents house and says he feels as though someone held up a mirror to his face to show him what he has done. He has gone back to counseling and wants to come home.
I don't mind if he does come home, but I don't want him back as my husband. Should I tell him before he moves in that the divorce will be filed and I want us to stand on our own and take care of our children the best we can? He freaked out when he saw some notes I had written regarding getting the house ready to sell.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 5:36pm

Welcome to the board lizk1735,


If you don't want to get back together as a couple, than you need to let him know before telling him that he can move back in. It is only fair that he knows how you feel and what you are thinking. It wouldn't be right to mislead him.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 5:53pm

Welcome to the board lizk1735,


It's good that he's back in counseling.