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He can't let go of the past
| Sun, 02-03-2008 - 9:08pm |
My current boyfriend met me while I was still in another relationship.
| Sun, 02-03-2008 - 9:08pm |
My current boyfriend met me while I was still in another relationship.
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Ravegods, he does this because you allow him to.
Hi true blue, thank you so much for your reponse.
'he insists on having a relationship with me'
What does this mean? Do you want a relationship with him?
'his intense desire to be with me'
I think it is more of an intense desire to control you, don't you? Why stay with someone who doesn't trust or respect you?
'More than anything, it is making me severely depressed.'
Then why stay? Take responsibility for your own happiness and get out. You don't have to date
Hi Gina...
What I mean by he insists on having a relationship with me, is that he always insisted that I was the one for him, that he was so crazy about me, all he wanted was me.
Welcome to the board ravegods,
You haven't mentioned whether or not, you have talked to him about how what he says makes you feel. You said you reassure him, but you didn't say if you told him how he makes you feel. If not, I think it is imporant that you do so.
Besides this one aspect, are you happy in the relationship?
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Hello Ctara...
Yes, I have told him how it makes me feel.
I think it is very good that you have made an emergency appt with your counselor.
You could try the next time he says something that makes you feel bad regarding this asking him if he remembers you telling him how it makes you feel. Then if he keeps going tell him that you won't let him make you feel bad and leave the room.
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'thinks it's pretty normal to be insecure and jealous'
Then it seems tht he needs individual counseling before he can be a good boyfriend and husband.
Talk to your counselor about the likelihood of his behavior escalating- wanting to control who you talk to, what friends you are allowed to see, what men you are allowed to look at, etc.
Welcome to the board ravegods,
Wow. If he's bringing it up even in passive-aggressive form, it really bothers him.
Ravegods, I have
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