Avoidance

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Avoidance
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 6:13am

I want to know how to deal with someone who avoids confrontation to the point where they would rather avoid talking about an issue than salvage their relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:07pm

Welcome to the board superwoman2008,


Since he not willing to talk to you about the issues in your marriage, do you think he would be read about it if you wrote it all out in a letter or email to him? You could explain what you think the problem is, how it makes you feel when he won't talk to you about it, and what solutions you think could solve the problem. Then you could ask him to either write back to you or talk to you about it. Just a thought anyways.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:13pm

'Just recently he asked me if I still wanted to go to counseling, and I said no.'


Then you aren't invested in saving the relationship. Go. Talk about the hypnobirthing class. Talk about all of the other communication problems too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2008
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 2:18pm

So sorry for you!

Kim
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:33pm

Welcome to the board superwoman2008,


I agree with Gina - go to therapy and discuss what happened.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 5:29pm

Thanks for all your advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 5:35pm
He's got problems you can't solve.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 5:44pm

I think I was blind to it when I first met him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 6:02pm

No offense taken. LOL


You interview them, you talk to them, you find one that is a good match.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2008
In reply to: superwoman2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 7:10pm
I was scared of self counseling to.
Kim