PLEASE HELP

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Registered: 02-05-2008
PLEASE HELP
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:38pm
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: baby_girl_08
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 5:30pm

Welcome to the board baby-girl-08,


Ask him if he saw that same text to your home boy, would he be ok with it?





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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: baby_girl_08
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 5:58pm

Welcome to the board baby-girl-08,


If you were looking through your bf's cell phone, its sounds like you already didn't trust him. Has he given you any reasons not to trust him?

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Registered: 02-05-2008
In reply to: baby_girl_08
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 12:29pm

Well i was starting not to trust him and then last night i got a txt message from him saying how sorry he was and that if i wanted to leave him that he would understand. And he also said that he loves me and to please not leave him. He said he was in the middle of nowhere and now i have heard anything from him since 10:30 last night. what should i do when i dont even know what he did.


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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: baby_girl_08
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 1:45pm

It sounds like he knows he is in trouble and is trying to get himself out of it.


I think you should go with your gut instinct. If you truly feel that something inappropriate happened, then leave him.

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In reply to: baby_girl_08
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 1:49pm

Well, this is a shock and of course there is no way of knowing what's really going on there. What does he mean his "home girl"? Find out. And, if you are uncomfortable with him texting another woman and saying those things, you have a right to let him know and ask him to discontinue. Each person in a relationship needs to have their feelings respected. At the very least, he should have let you known about her before and what this relationship is. He hasn't been open enough about it with you. I could understand why you feel uneasy, and suggest that you talk about it in detail to make things clear.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 02-07-2008
In reply to: baby_girl_08
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 5:05pm
i know this sound crazy but when i have to make a painful or hard decision i fold a paper in half. i write pros(positives) on one side and cons(negatives) on the other.
then if theres more pros i might stay and work it out. if theres more negatives ( or more than 3)i hit the road. no one needs negativity of any kind in their life. his pattern shows he will continue to do this. the female gut instinct is a powerful thing...always listen to it! if your gut is telling you ,"dont or can't trust him" but your just searching for the proof. then it sounds like inside you already know he is no good. you just want to prove it to yourself to confirm your suspicions...sounds like your intuition is right on....i agree with everyone else, if he has given you a reason not to trust him.(and being out late and not telling you where he is ,is pretty shady!)..its time to leave. If you forgive him and take him back, he'll only do it again cause he thinks he can get away with it. dude sounds like a player,sounds like he is stringing you along. dont fall for it, don't waste your time.