[help my marriage please.]

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Registered: 01-06-2008
[help my marriage please.]
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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 11:30pm

okay, I am going to try & make this as short as possible.........


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Registered: 08-21-2005
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 7:21am

I think you both need to go to counseling if you want this to work out. You both married very young and it sounds like you are not ready for this committment ~ sorry to be harsh, but that's what I think. You both need to learn *why* you *both* cheat.

I know you say you're not the same person, but in all reality 3 months is not nearly long enough to declare a change. Your DH will need you to show him your change much longer than this to start to trust you again. Actions speak louder than words.

Seek counseling. That's my suggestion. I'm not sure what else you can do. You both have cheated and share a lack of trust from one another. Through counseling you can hopefully work through your issues together.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:25am

Welcome to the board cheerbaby2002,


Obviously neither one of you are ready for marriage. If you really want to make this work you need to start individual counseling now and also marriage counseling with your husband. The thing is that neither one of you are able to trust the other at this point in time. It is very hard to make a marriage when there is no trust.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 1:11pm

Welcome to the board cheerbaby2002,


Growing up isn't easy and