the past is eating us alive :(

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Registered: 02-07-2007
the past is eating us alive :(
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Sun, 02-17-2008 - 3:03pm

my husband and I have been together for 7 years. 5 years ago (prior to marriage) I cheated on him


The whole matter seemed to be a grey area, since we enjoyed many 3somes with

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 3:24pm

What are the questions he repeatedly asks?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 3:34pm

I think that your DH isn't upset so much that you had sex with another man, I think he's upset that he didn't get to watch. After all this time, he's being ridiculous. He encouraged the "cheating" in the first place, and the fact that he didn't get to watch a couple of times is just splitting hairs.


You are right that he doesn't want to get over this. I don't think he has anything to "get over", and

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 11:50am

Welcome to the board goddessmeg25,


::I came clean and vowed to earn his trust back.


Most couples cannot overcome betrayal and rebuild trust on their own without professional help.