Fed up and ready to leave

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2008
Fed up and ready to leave
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Sun, 02-24-2008 - 4:51pm
Hi I would appreciate some advice, I have been married for 11 years now and together for 16. My husband has a 32 year old son who is severly schizophrenic and has attacked me 4 times over the years my husband also beat me one time. Whenever we have a conversation about this he always minimizes what happened and tries to make it my fault. Since we first got together I have always contributed financially and more than paid my own way. Yet even after all these years he refuses to add my name to anything we own. I feel used and abused and am at the point that I don't even want to talk to him. I am so tired of everything being blamed on me. Also his ex wife will not help with her son whom I have been raising for 15 years now. But will get on the phone and curse me out, he will not defend me but will run to her defense every time. What to do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 02-24-2008 - 7:26pm

Welcome to the board jay12008,


You are in an abusive relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Sun, 02-24-2008 - 7:37pm

Your are in an abusive relationship and you need to GET OUT.


I did it...after 20 years, beat more than once, raped more than once, cheated on more than once and what did it take?

Missy
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2008
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 11:42pm
Hey I do not Know you from hell and if you think I should not be on these board then you have a problem I am sorry you went through
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 7:08am
This response is so totally wrong and mean that I can't possibly believe you were serious when you wrote it. What the hell do you think these boards are for?? Misssy gave you excellent advice from the heart because she's been where you are before and you attacked her for it. Wow, maybe you DON'T belong here then!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2007
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 1:18pm
She didn't mean you shouldn't be allowed here- she meant she was surprised your husband *lets* you come here b/c of the type of relationship.