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Is it normal?
| Mon, 02-25-2008 - 4:21pm |
My ex-husband of 17 years left to his home country like 8 months ago saying that he wanted a separation and that he didn't want anything with me. During this time he talk to the 16 and 15 years old kids most of the time and he is giving monthly money support . Now, he decided to come and visit the kids but the thing is that he didn't call me, he called the kids and said he was coming ,that have ready one room. He is here, and now he is repairing and doing things even washing dishes and vacuuming; he doesn't talk to me and I am confused in the sense that because I don't want to argue and I understand that he doesn't want to spend money in a hotel (but he is expending money in things even though he always complains he doesn't have money);

Welcome to the board cucciolona,
If you are really worried that he will stop sending money, than don't say anything to him. I don't know how hard child support enforcement is when the parties are in different countries, but I imagine it could be difficult. If it turns out that he stays longer than expected, you will have to break down and say something to him.
Also start the seperation or divorce proceeding soon. It might be easier while he is still in the country.
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I second the idea of starting the paperwork now that he is here. You can force him to pay child support if he withholds.
Is his visit good for the kids? Do they enjoy him being there? Can you trust him in your house when you have to leave?