Money really is the root of all evil....

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Registered: 02-27-2008
Money really is the root of all evil....
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 1:38am
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Registered: 08-11-2004
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 6:20am

What you should do is watch your temper and how you speak to the next person you're dating. It's probably over with this one.

You have to be able to see that it's a bad thing to tell someone yes and have them plan on it and then change your mind, and yes it's your right, but it's also his right to be upset about that.

As far as everything else, it's pretty clear everything else went downhill when you started verbally attacking him. You told him he was immature, so why should he have wanted to continue talking to you after that? If you think he's a bum and that you could do better, then leave him alone in the future. You might have been able to apologize enough to get him to forgive that, but telling him you're cheating and that the new boyfriend will give him money as charity, I don't think many guys would want to forgive that. He would always wonder if the part about you cheating was true. Saying you're aware this *might* have hurt him is quite a huge understatement.

If you know you act out of anger, it's too much to just expect that since you're "humble" enough to admit to being wrong that you should automatically be forgiven. Some things are not forgivable, and he may well have decided that your pattern of angry outbursts isn't something he can live with. Maybe he's decided that he can do better too.

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Registered: 11-01-2007
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 1:16pm

I don't agree with the other poster.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 1:30pm

Welcome to the board justlikeu2008,


It is clear this relationship isn't going to work regardless. I think the best thing to do at this point is not to worry about it and move on.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 3:25pm

Welcome to the board justlimeu2008,


You've got a few issues going on here.


First, I think it's a good thing you changed your mind about giving him money again, especially after his reaction to your change of heart.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 12:25am
It hurts, but you can't solve these problems for him. If you try, the likelihood is that you will get burnt. Save your money and put it toward your future. If he wants to be in it, he will find a way to make it there, no matter the challenges. Don't bail him out. Invest in yourself!