Ex Girlfriend troubled with hidden gf
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Ex Girlfriend troubled with hidden gf
| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 2:55pm |
I have been dating my bf for almost 11 months now. All along during our relationship, I used to get annoyed at the fact that he hid me from his last ex gf. I thought he was embarrassed and did not want to take it out in the open. However, that was not the case with his other friends. He did not tell me much about her either, but through my own means I learnt about her..including her name.
Two days ago, she found out about me through my boyfriends parents (as she is still a close family friend). At 6am, my boyfriend receives a phone call from her and she starts confronting him. After a few minutes, my bf left the room and went to speak to her in private. I got inquisitive, and started listening to the conversation without his knowledge. He even mentioned that we have been having arguments a lot lately right in the start of the conversation. Towards the end of the conversation, I thought he said, "Do you want to sleep with me next time I am around?" I freaked out, confronted him, he swore that he did not say anything like that. I did not believe him and later during the day called her to make sure. My boyfriend had given me her no.
So first time I call her, I put her on the spot in a very polite way and apologized to her several times. Turns out he had not said that to her. I felt relieved. I needed to do this because things were hidden from me and noone would tell me anything.During the call, she asked me how we had met, and I replied and then she went on about why she had ended the r/s and if it were okay with me that she continued being his friend. I said I did not have a problem with that at all as long as everything was out in the open.
She called my boyfriend later on during the day again and told him he had lied to her etc.
The true reason that my bf never told her about me was because he really cares about her and she is going through an extremely difficult time and does not have anyone close to her except my bf that she shares anyting with. He wanted her to be settled in her life before he told her. Now she is accusing him of lying to her when she constantly asked him if he was seeing anyone and he had said no.
The ex has now ended the friendship with my bf and said she would never be able to trust him again. Now I am being blamed for this since I had called her the first time and answered her question on how we had met and how long its been going on for. He said that he would have kept things vague and not given her much details and handled it better. I know I should have trusted my bf and not called her but I did not tell her much.
Is it really my fault that she is reacting this way? All along, I was the one having bitter arguments with my bf on why he is hiding this from her and that he should not... both for my sake and hers.
He is not taking any responsibility for it and I think his ex is over reacting. All along, I would have to deal with her texts
Two days ago, she found out about me through my boyfriends parents (as she is still a close family friend). At 6am, my boyfriend receives a phone call from her and she starts confronting him. After a few minutes, my bf left the room and went to speak to her in private. I got inquisitive, and started listening to the conversation without his knowledge. He even mentioned that we have been having arguments a lot lately right in the start of the conversation. Towards the end of the conversation, I thought he said, "Do you want to sleep with me next time I am around?" I freaked out, confronted him, he swore that he did not say anything like that. I did not believe him and later during the day called her to make sure. My boyfriend had given me her no.
So first time I call her, I put her on the spot in a very polite way and apologized to her several times. Turns out he had not said that to her. I felt relieved. I needed to do this because things were hidden from me and noone would tell me anything.During the call, she asked me how we had met, and I replied and then she went on about why she had ended the r/s and if it were okay with me that she continued being his friend. I said I did not have a problem with that at all as long as everything was out in the open.
She called my boyfriend later on during the day again and told him he had lied to her etc.
The true reason that my bf never told her about me was because he really cares about her and she is going through an extremely difficult time and does not have anyone close to her except my bf that she shares anyting with. He wanted her to be settled in her life before he told her. Now she is accusing him of lying to her when she constantly asked him if he was seeing anyone and he had said no.
The ex has now ended the friendship with my bf and said she would never be able to trust him again. Now I am being blamed for this since I had called her the first time and answered her question on how we had met and how long its been going on for. He said that he would have kept things vague and not given her much details and handled it better. I know I should have trusted my bf and not called her but I did not tell her much.
Is it really my fault that she is reacting this way? All along, I was the one having bitter arguments with my bf on why he is hiding this from her and that he should not... both for my sake and hers.
He is not taking any responsibility for it and I think his ex is over reacting. All along, I would have to deal with her texts

Welcome to the board tjat2008,
You didn't do anything wrong. He was the one lying from the beginning and should have been upfront with her about everything. He has no one to blame, but himself.
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Welcome to the board tjat2008,
Sorry, but there is waaaay too much drama in your relationship and too many people also. I'd walk away.
The girlfriend is an ex, and your boyfriend has NO business being involved with her in the least, barring any children they have together. Assuming this is not the case, and as everyone has told you, walk away. I had similar nonsense going on in my post wherein my girlfriend takes these private calls from her husband. If there is nothing to hide, then the calls should be made in my presence, right? That's my point....appearance is everything. Hope this helps you. Trust is SO fragile these days. Too many idiots and game players (intentional or inherent). I feel for you.
RG