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PregNant SinGle HuRt
| Thu, 03-06-2008 - 12:46pm |
I recently got dumped, it was a five year relationship and I an four months pregnant..........it was over me going on a bike ride with a friend of his that i didnt tell him about and his friend started working with him and told him.......not his fault but i feel like its a lame excuse to leave......we have a child on the way and suposed to be a family i have tried the begging approach and it didnt work i havent called him in the past two days and he hasnt called neither.....its been almost a week......i and so hurt and stressed and want to save this relationship and dont know how....... we have had a rocky past

Is this really over one bike ride or something bigger?
You have some decisions to make. What are you going to do about your pregnancy/raising a child? Does he want to be a part of the child's life?
Welcome to the board klynnhake,
Either he is using the bike ride as an excuse to break up with you or there is more to the story regarding trust issues.
I have the same questions as ciao_gina - does he want to be involved with the child?
Welcome to the board klynnhake,
I agree with the other posters that there has to be more going on or more behind this break. Possibly cheating or lying in the past that would make this more of a big deal.
You need to meet with a lawyer and discuss your options for child support and child custody.
Sorry you are going through this.
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Unless he is willing to work things out, there's really nothing you can do. It takes two people to want to be in a relationship and to mature enough to discuss it when they are upset. I agree with you that there is probably a lot more brewing within him than upset about your taking a bike ride with his friend. You've been together for five years and you're pregnant. By now he must know that you can be trusted. It sounds more as though he is having fear about being a father and all the committment that will bring. There must be many underlying issues that brought him to this point. Wait and see whether he makes any overtures to you. If he does not, then at the very least the two of you have to work out details about the child. I believe that he will have to help with expenses and so forth. There are legal matters connected to this and I would consult, not only a personal counsellor to deal with this but a lawyer as well.
All good wishes,
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