separate vacations

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Registered: 07-21-2007
separate vacations
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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 7:15pm

Me and my boyfriend have been back together for about six months and were previously together for about 8 months last year. We are in college, and our spring break week is coming up. He always goes with his older cousin's family to go ski in Colorado for a week, but the family is going somewhere else this year and cancelled. Their condo is still available though, and my boyfriend loves to ski and really still wanted to go, so he asked all his friends to go instead, including two girls.

My concern is, why didn't he ask me? We had talked about going out for a week by ourselves before, and even though I don't really ski, we've even gone on ski trips before and he used to want to teach me. He said he didn't ask me because I don't ski and he now thinks we are too young to go on a big vacation together and he would be concerned about what his parents would think of us staying by ourselves for a week in a family condo. I can understand that, but he was never concerned about that before and he also invited two girls his parents do not even know. Now it is just him and his roommate and two girls. They collectively decided not to invite significant others because it would make it less of a friend-thing and less fun.

Should I be offended? Should I be worried that his feelings for me have changed? He doesn't understand why I would be upset and insists he just really wants to ski. He thinks I have overreacted and should apologize to him. Last year we were taking separate spring break trips and we were so upset we couldn't go together, and he even said then in the future it would be ok to invite me. What should I do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-09-2008 - 7:29pm

This situation would bother me too, and I'm not the jealous or possessive type. It would be different if it was a "guys only" vacation, but he has invited other female friends. And why would it be "less fun" to have you there? Is he saying that his roommate and two female friends are more fun to be with than you? If

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 03-09-2008 - 9:52pm
I agree, I would also be kind of offended. Have you met these friends of his before? Do you get along?
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Registered: 07-21-2007
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 10:34am

Thanks for answering.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 12:32pm

Welcome to the board justgo2007,


While he's gone read: Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis and see if it help you decide what you want to do with this relationship.