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| Fri, 06-06-2008 - 2:07pm |
I have been seeing this man for almost 2 years. We are both divorced and have our own kids. My kids are younger, live with me, and
| Fri, 06-06-2008 - 2:07pm |
I might expect this at two months but not two years, even with kids (GROWN KIDS)!
This man is intentionally keeping you at much longer than arm's length.
Can I ask, do you have a goal to get married someday? Because if he hasn't even mentioned you to his children, the most important people in his life, it's clear that he does not have any big plans with you.
I will say that his behavior is very suspect. Is it possible that his children know something about him that you don't - perhaps that he's not divorced? (Maybe this is a long shot but I can't rule it out because I don't know)
Do you know any of his friends or other family members? Does he exclude you from other parts of his life? Do you two spend a lot of time together?
Welcome to the board provolone2007,
The fact that he has keep you from meeting his adult kids is a red flag in my opinion especially since the two of you have been together for 2 years.
What's his reason for keeping the relationship from them?
Have you read: Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis ?
It's a good question and would be even better if you asked him, rather than us. Clearly, he is not yet able or willing to fully integrate you into his life. He might well have guilt about having a new woman, and he doesn't want to upset his children. However, if this has been going on for two years, it's too long. Either he wants you as his primary person in his life or he doesn't. If he does he has to take steps to formally realize his old family unit is gone and that you are part of the new one. If he does not, or will not, then it is most likely your relationship will just stay the way it is.
Best wishes,
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