no more halo 3, please
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| Fri, 06-06-2008 - 10:34pm |
I'm wondering if anyone else's relationship seems to be taking a back seat to video games (halo, w.o.w., etc.). My boyfriend of 4+ years and I rarely spend time together these days, but he always makes time for Halo. Each night he's online playing with his buddies, all day they're talking about it, then at odd moments he'll mention that he doesn't feel close to me anymore. What I would love to say is something along the lines of "you need to interact with someone to be close to them," but I generally shrug instead of inviting confrontation. I just found out the other day that they actually watch replays of themselves playing. Are you kidding me? (my apologies if I'm offending gamers out there as my issue is more with my relationship than the game itself.)
So, is this a more fundamental issue with my relationship, or is this something a lot of folks are dealing with? Your thoughts, advice and discussion are welcomed.
Kate

Welcome to the board brghtmoon,
I hear you. Been there, done that with different games.
Thanks for the tip. I may see if I can get a copy of either book at the local library. (guess that means I have to pay my late fees. rats!)
Kate
I play WOW so here's a little insight.
The easiest way to get a gamer to do something else is to have other definite plans. If you get fed up enough, leave and do something on your own. If you live together this one is more effective. You don't mention, but of course telling him that you feel as though you take a back seat to video games is the way to go about this first. Of course he will probably disagree with you - I don't know how many hours a day he plays but it's not unreasonable for you to feel this way.
I wonder if he doesn't feel close to you anymore because of other factors?