He snores a lot!! Help!!

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Registered: 08-15-2004
He snores a lot!! Help!!
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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 5:32am

In the beginning when we moved together we laugh about this, but now is becoming a problem. My fiance smokes and so he snores at night in same specific positions he sleeps. He also has heavy breathing. I´m very sensitive to noises while sleeping and I can´t stand people snoring. I woke up a lot of times and I get up in the morning really tired to go to work.


I asked him to buy something in the pharmacy to stop snoring and breathe better but he doesn´t do it. I´m getting nuts with this and I believe I don´t have to put up with this. I don´t smoke, I don´t do noises while sleeping, why should I have to put up with him snoring!?


We have another

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 7:28am

He is being selfish if he's not willing to attempt to get his snoring under control.

If I lived with a snorer, I'd be in that second bedroom so fast... As a light sleeper I can't stand to be woken up many times during the night from snoring. I don't think this will necessarily drive you apart unless you let it. You can be intimate at other times, but when it's time to actually go to sleep it's fine to use the bedroom.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 9:13am
Why do people assume because your not lying unconscious next to each other for 9 hours a night that it will ruin your relationship? My husband snores terribly. He also kicks and punches in his sleep. Throw in his occasional insomnia and my extremely light sleeping and there is no way I can tolerate sleeping with him. He tried all the over the counter stuff and nothing worked. I have had my own room all five years we have been married and we have a fantastic, loving and close relationship. If you fixate on the separate rooms issue it will become an issue. However, he does need to at least attempt to fix the problem.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 1:26pm

Welcome to the board pakanuigirl,


As long as the two of you agree to separate bedrooms, it wouldn't necessarily hurt the relationship.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 4:56pm

Welcome to the board,


Why can't you go to the store and buy the stop snoring strips and ask him to use them. My husband snores heavily if he is really tired. Usually I just rub on him enough to make him slightly startle and the snoring stops. That or I wake him up telling him he is snoring and to roll over on his side and that stops it.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 10:39pm
What about the BreatheRight strips?
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 11:20am
Why would sleeping in a different room drive you apart? If it does, then the realtionship has other problems. My husband has tried everything- a sleep clinic- testing for sleep disorder, surgery in his nose and throat, tonsil and adenoid removal and he still snores really loud so we sleep in different rooms. It doesn't drive me to another man or slow down our sex life. You can still snuggle in bed, watch t.v. in bed together, talk in bed together. I love getting the whole bed to myself with our cats!