Breaking up for something i didn't do?
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Breaking up for something i didn't do?
| Wed, 06-18-2008 - 10:13pm |
I need help. My boyfriend and the father of our child (10 mos old) is breaking up with me for something he thinks is going on but isn't.

Welcome to the board nssmom,
Unfortunately, you can't make him share with you.
This is very sad. And, the fact that he won't tell you what it is that he finds so sick and gross makes me think that he is having a kind of breakdown. Perhaps living with a new mother (even though it is his child), is too much for him? It is very disturbing that he is so willing to leave his child, but sometimes the birth of a child brings out many unpleasant qualities in a parent. Clearly, he can't handle this right now. Of course it would be important for him to get to therapy quickly, but it doesn't seem as if he even realizes he has a real problem here.
I suggest you get yourself some good therapy so you have find the support and clarity you need to handle this situation and re-build your life and move forward. Although there is this difficulty with his birth father, your child does not always have to in a fatherless home. You can re-group and ultimately find someone more suitable for both of you.
All good wishes,
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