So frustrated- could use advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2008
So frustrated- could use advice
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 5:00pm

My live in boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and are currently planning a move to a new place I bought (we lived in his house for the last year and I paid him rent).

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 5:28pm

Welcome to the board frustrated_lynn,


::but I feel like he is acting like a child with the yelling, calling names and hanging up the phone on me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 5:30pm

Welcome to the board frustrated_lynn,


Well my advice and I'm sure you not going to like it, would be not to move into this new place together. He is very mean and verbally/emotionally abusive to you.


Are you buying this house in your name only?


I don't think moving to this new house is going to solve any of your problems or make you get along any better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2008
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 7:20pm

Thank you for your thoughts and suggestions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2008
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 7:26pm

I am buying this place in my name only.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 7:38pm

The way a man treats the women in his life is a huge sign. Why do you stay with him when he puts you down? I'm sorry but you're deluding yourself if you think having a larger place to stay will magically cause this man to respect you. He is cruel and demeaning, and while I'm sure he has great qualities, deep down he has the ability to be downright abusive. That's not a man who is suitable for a relationship with anyone.

Men like this do not get better. Eventually they get worse. He needs to be on his own, without a woman to belittle, in anger management.

"I just don't want to be the target of that meanness for the rest of my life."
Then I suggest you not spend another day being the target of his meanness.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 10:36am
If you don't want to be the target of his meanness for the rest of your life, than you know what you need to do. He not only treats you with disrespect but also his sister and mother. This is a pattern and it is not going to change. Sorry you have to go through this.