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Should I accept this?
| Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:41pm |
I hope someone on here can tell me if I'm wrong, if I should accept this treatment? Here's my story: I met a man on an online dating site and we've been talking for about 3 months. He's been calling me everyday and e-mailing me. We finally met last week. He took me out to dinner and we had a wonderful time. At his invitation, we went on our second date two days later. I came to his house and met both his teenage daughters, we went to the beach, me and him and

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He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...
Every day is C
Wow you really are charmed by his ... slightly poetic words. Priti, this is the way he lures women and you're hooked. But, I will say that you're intelligent and self-respectful enough to be suspicious that you're getting played. So at least you recognized this, that's a good thing.
I am positive that the way he speaks with you will be the way he'll be talking to the other women when he has sex with them.
Slugs are charming people on the outside, that's how they are able to get laid by anyone.
"So, do you guys think he'll be back once the women are gone,"
Maybe, until they come back or he finds another woman he wants to have unprotected sex with.
"and more importantly, should I accept him back??"
No.
"Am I expecting too much? :("
A man who thinks you're special to him and doesn't ditch you to sleep with ex (or other) girlfriends? How is that possibly too much to ask?
"I think if I was special to him, he would tell the women to cancel the trip, or just NOT have sex with them."
You are 100% correct, lady.
"Is this guy a scumbag?"
Definitely.
Yhis guy is bad news! He's a master manipulator, and apparently good enough at it that so many women let him use them. If he was sincere about you, he would be honest with the girls that are coming and let them choose if they want to sleep with him. He chose to tell you AFTER he had sex with you. That was an intentional fraud. If you were special to him, he would have been honest before the sex. I bet he does the same to them - tells them AFTER he gets his action, if at all.
Also, what does it say about a man to introduce so many women to his kids and spend the night with them - WHILE MARRIED. He's not a good man. RUN and tell him never to contact you again. Avoid anymore manipulation. RUN and don't look back.
You are right. :( Also, he didn't tell me he suffered from ED until we were right into the sex act and he was having problems sustaining his erection. :(
He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...
Every day is C
'i am thoroughly impressed with you as a person and a woman and it is any sane man's dream to share love and affection with someone of your caliber.'
Do you think you are the first one he has said this to? I am sure girlfriends 1 and 2 hear this too.
He doesn't want to get divorced because he won't have an excuse not to get married again.
Stay away from this guy and learn a couple of lessons about acting to fast and listening to the red flags.
Welcome to the board priti2008,
I'd walk away from this guy and never, ever look back.
Thanks for the responses everyone. Guess what? I
He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...
Every day is C
A poster on here said technically he didn't do anything wrong because we were not exclusive.
we are scheduled to talk tonight and I have my own set of questions.
If he gets involved with me he will tow the line, and I'll see to it that he's a role model in front of his daughters and two sons.
He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...
Every day is C
Technically he didn't do anything wrong, but that's not really the point. A person doesn't get to date you just because they don't do anything "wrong." You can also pass on people who don't meet the values and ethics that you hold dear to yourself. The fact is, he thinks it's okay to sleep with multiple women at the same time while still married. For me, that is enough information to make me pass him by -- even if he supposedly decided to pass up a few of those opportunities for me.
Give this guy a pass; there are better ones out there.
ioveranalyze, I agree with you. BUT, most guys sleep around that are not in a relationship. Can you deny that? Ask any of them on this board. This man should have gotten divorced, but he's not the only one who thinks like that too. I will get to the bottom of that as well. His wife has been out of the house since 2002. If he was going to go back, he probably would have by now. Maybe he wasn't ready to let go emotionally, who knows?
I will get to the bottom of the marriage issue tonight. He also knows I want a committed relationship. The man says he's been in tears since he let me go.
He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...
Every day is C
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