My bf wants a break

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2008
My bf wants a break
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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 3:11pm
For the first year of or relationship everything was perfect he paid attention to me and took me out. Now for the past year and a half he has become less affectionate and wants to spend all his time with his friends he hardly ever wants to do anything with just me. And when we do go out he doesn't even hold my hand. We get into a lot of fights because of this but I just want to spend time with him without his friends there. He blames all of this trouble we're having on me saying that I'm always
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2006
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 3:32pm

I understand it can be really hard to accept something like this. BUT, you cannot


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2008
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 3:37pm
He's 21. I do get on him quite a bit but he won't listen I'll try to have a calm conversation with him then he just blows up on me. I just want him to treat me as good as he used to and want to do stuff with me without friends around.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 3:57pm

Nagging him and "getting on him" is not going to make him want to spend more time with you, it will make him want to be with you even less. Anything will be a chore if you make it into mandatory homework for him. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who doesn't need to be arm wrestled into being your boyfriend?

A break is just an easier way of breaking up. I think he's trying to make the transition into singlehood.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2006
Fri, 06-27-2008 - 4:17pm

Your feels are completely justified, however, he seems to be over the "honeymoon"


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 12:46am

Welcome to the board kac2007,


Reading material to consider:


Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Are You the One for Me? Barbara DeAngelis
Do Not Touch, Talk to, Marry or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs, Nailah Shami


When he asks for space (aka, "a break") - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22130.1