Husband puts off having sex
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Husband puts off having sex
| Sun, 06-29-2008 - 6:10pm |
So here is the deal. Yeah me and my husband are at that 4 year mark where things get hard. We have been fighting alot lately. I think I am being good about not nagging him about things. Well here is the problem we haven't had sex in 2 months and I am getting frustrated. I know we have been arguing. He started a new job and works nights and says when do we even have time to have sex. I said there has been lots of times you just don't want to. I asked him today if we could have sex and he said maybe. I asked him why he doesn't want to have sex with me. He said that I make it sound like a chore. Ok maybe I do. But what am I suppose to do I make a move he turns me down. I just don't know what to do. I told him if he had sex with me and hugged and kissed me more maybe I won't be so nagging. And he says ok I will try. And I get nothing!!! I am so confused by him. He looks at porn more than he looks at me and it is so up setting. I don't care if he looks but if he isn't having sex with me then I think he prefers the porn over me. How long am I suppose to wait till he has sex with me 6 months a year I don't know. I asked him if there is anything I can do and he says I don't know. I am just upset with him and don't understand him!! Help me please!!!

I know it takes two to tango and if he isnot satisfied with the quality of your sex life then he is part to blame.
However, you are the one who is wanting more of it so try to entice him rather than tell him what you want.
Welcome to the board jbeebe323,
::at that 4 year mark where things get hard.
I don't believe that has to be true, unless you make it so.
Reading material to consider:
Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, John Gray
Most problems in the bedroom are a reflection of other problems in the relationship.