Is it time to go??needadvice/opinions

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Is it time to go??needadvice/opinions
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:30am

Ok, long story. I'll try to be as brief as possible but I feel it is necessary for you guys to hear thewhole thing to get

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 3:42am

Even if your husband doesn't go to a counselor with you, I think you will get amazing benefit by going to see a counselor.


Counselor's job is not improving your relationship like a magic, but rather make you find a way to communicate him well. Since you have two kids, you don't want to make a big decision before getting a professional help.


It seems that there are many hopes there in your marriage.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 11:51am

Welcome to the board nmariean,


I agree with the previous poster. If he will not to go counseling, go by yourself. It will really help you plus give you a good place to vent.


The thing that really worries me about your post is that you mention him maybe being suicidal. Is this something you could talk to him about? By letting him know how concerned you are and that you really want to see him happy and to get some help.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:58pm

Welcome to the board nmariean,


I too would recommend you go to counseling on your own so you can gather some tools to help you communicate better and cope better with what is going on at home and/or help you with your decision to leave.

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Wed, 07-02-2008 - 11:38am

I have tried to tell him but he will not go. He did say that I can go if I want to. This is a very common thinking among hispanic males-the fact that a counselr is for "crazy" people or for peoplpe who do not know how to control thei rlives. He fails to understand that counselors help us cope, change our attitudes/behaviors to better ourselves, etc., I have a list of counselors to start calling recommended by my doctor.