unsure how to handle all of this?

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Registered: 02-11-2007
unsure how to handle all of this?
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Wed, 07-02-2008 - 12:52pm

Hi. I posted this on the "games people play" board, but havent gotten a response. I am just hoping to get a little advice if possible.


. I have been dating someone for a little over ayear now. I started dating him a year ago April. He was separated at the time and his divorce became final this past December. We had a month "break" last November as the finalization of his divorce neared. He missed me though and came back. Things have been great since then (well up until now). We are and have been extremely close and

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-02-2008 - 1:19pm

Welcome to the board blossom40,


Sorry, in my opinion he is 'having is cake and eating it too' no matter what he says. "I want to date, do eharmony, but I still want to see you, have sex with you, just check out what's available out there - don't fall for it."

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 07-02-2008 - 2:56pm

I guess he feels now that he should have done the dating circuit after the divorce before settling down with you.


Since you dont want to have anything less than a commited relationship with him, why settle?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 07-02-2008 - 5:09pm

Welcome to the board blossom40,


If you were to date someone else to see his reaction that you would just be playing games back with him. If you truly just want to be in an exclusive relationship, than tell him that. Don't settle for something that isn't what you really want.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 7:12pm

Many guys aren't ready to make a committment right after a divorce - as he said, he wants to see who's out there. This is a clear message to you. Let him go and see. And I mean really let him go. Timing is everything.