Confused and Sad

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Confused and Sad
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Wed, 07-02-2008 - 8:11pm

Well i've been dating this guy J for about 7 months and things have been awesome and everything is so great with him but I feel inside that I don't feel as strongly for him as he does for me, and I dont understand why?


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Registered: 05-24-2008
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 12:30am

I would also be concerned if after 7 months I didnt feel the same way about my SO as he feels about me.


You cant force yourself to feel something that isnt there so you might have to break up with him.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 1:36am

Welcome to the board summerlove2008,


Sometimes one person does feel more for the other, but it doesn't mean they aren't in love.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:54pm

Some women feel more towards men who are nasty and challenge them. If they find someone who truly wants them and cares about them, the excitement fades out. Or, they may feel as though they do not deserve this good treatment.


Obviously you have feelings for him or you would not have trouble parting. I suggest you find a therapist with whom you can work this out. By talking to a well trained professional you will receive a better understanding of what it is that makes you feel happy in a relationship, what is truly missing here and how to make choices that are healthy for you...By understanding yourself better, you may also be able to correct whatever it is in the relationship that is not exactly working now.


All good wishes,