need opinion

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Registered: 07-06-2008
need opinion
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Sun, 07-06-2008 - 6:26pm
My ex boyfriend of two years broke up with me on February and then later on while he was dating some girl he was trying to get back with me but changed his mind.The last time we talked the conversation got so heated up that hurtful things were said. Well know I regret it and wish I can take it back because I said i would not be their for him. It's been a month since and we still have not talk it got so bad that I changed my number.He tried to cause problems between me and my parents.It has not been the easiest relationship because of alot of things he has done to me but i have managed to forgive him. Should i call him and try to stop being enemies and if i should communicate with him how should i do it?
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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: gal_nikki22
Sun, 07-06-2008 - 8:19pm
Don't call him; move on and give yourself time to heal from this guy. In just this short post you have said that he is a cheater (tried to get back with you while dating another girl), has done things that required you to forgive him, and tried to cause trouble between you and your parents. There are plenty of men in the world who have whatever good qualities your ex displayed, and don't have his bad ones--get rid of this guy and give them a chance.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
In reply to: gal_nikki22
Sun, 07-06-2008 - 9:06pm
Is he "there" for you?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: gal_nikki22
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 5:43pm

Welcome to the board gal_nikki22,


::while he was dating some girl he was trying to get back with me but changed his mind.


If he is still with that girl (or any other one) stay away from him. He's off-limits and unavailable.


How to Get Over Your Breakup - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21181.1


Relationship Grieving Process - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22985.1


Zen of Doing Nothing - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21173.1





angels

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Registered: 07-07-2008
In reply to: gal_nikki22
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 6:00pm

I think it is definitely best to just let this relationship be. I wouldn't contact him anymore, seeing as it doesnt sound like much good has or will come from rehashing things. How do you expect yourself to heal if you don't stay away. its like getting burned by a fire and then running right back to it. Or constantly pulling off a scab never allowing yourself to heal. Okay, maybe not the best examples, but you get what I'm saying.


He wasn't good for you the first 2 years i doubt things will change now..


Time to move on to bigger and better things :)