Hmmm what is going on...do I stay or go?

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Registered: 03-23-2008
Hmmm what is going on...do I stay or go?
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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 2:03pm

Hey everyone I need some advice from you all so here it goes...keep in mind this is a condensed version.

LostInParadiseGal....

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Registered: 01-20-2004
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 2:34pm

MOVE ON! He's lying to you and you're too blided by love to see it.

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 2:50pm
Going slow is the smartest thing you did here. Can you imagine living with this guy and your son and then your boyfriend decides he is smothered???? He is a loose cannon. You don't know what he will think or feel next about the status of your relationship and he has all of the control here. Why not move on and find someone a little more mature (who doesn't sulk and withdraw) and appreciates going slow. ALso, think twice before introducing your son in the first 6 months.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 3:03pm

Welcome to the board lostinparadisegal,


I say give him his space..


::BUT he also did confess to me that people at his work are saying that he and this chic are a couple.

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Registered: 03-23-2008
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 4:32pm

That is part of the reason that I was hesitant to move in with him.

LostInParadiseGal....
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Registered: 03-23-2008
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 4:39pm

Thanks everyone for your feedback!!!

LostInParadiseGal....
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Registered: 07-07-2008
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 6:07pm

Yes MOST DEFINITELY MOVE ON. This guy doesnt sound like he knows what the hell he wants. He sounds selfish ane I think he is lying to you. Plus, if he is willing to give up on you this easily? he's not worth it. I know it hurts now, but the longer you stay the more it WILL hurt. for both you and your son. don't relationships suck 98% of the time. but its just that 2% that has got to keep us going. Anyway, don't give up... just don't settle either :-)


You deserve better!!

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 6:47pm
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 9:35am

I do not at all agree with kiszkisz. DO NOT under any circumstances move in with this guy! That would be like the kiss of death! Why would anyone try to work on things by moving in with someone who can't make up their mind on whether or not they want to be with you? I don't think that would be the smartest idea.


"I am a great woman with a good head on her shoulders and I won't have a problem finding someone else.

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Registered: 03-23-2008
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 6:21pm
Thank you everyone for reading about my problem and giving me feedback!!
LostInParadiseGal....
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 6:27pm
I agree that you should move on. You're making decisions for two people - yourself and your son who doesn't have the "weight" of an adult and does not get to make the decision. Moving in together would most likely end in disaster somehow. You deserve better than secrets.

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