My boyfriend is being a HUGE jerk!
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| Wed, 07-09-2008 - 6:40pm |
I am soooo frustrated right now!!! My bf is being the biggest jerk and it is starting to irritate me. Lately he is such a negative person, all he does is complain and whine, and I am the one that usually has to compromise so he can have his way. He usually isn't like this but the past few months I just want to shake him and say "what the hell is wrong with you?"
He always has been kind of negative but i guess in the beginning it didn't bother me, because there were so many other wonderful qualities that made up for it. But now that we have been together for close to 2.5 years it's just plain annoying. I usually just end up getting upset because he just brings me down.
I was talking on the phone with him today about weekend plans. When he answered the phone I tried to crack a little joke (i was happy & having a good day) he snapped, didn't laugh and said in such a mean tone "cut to the chase." I didn't even know what to say! ANYWAY, he was complaining because no one wanted to go to this event that he really wanted to go to (this rodeo). I said no, we can go, it doesn't bother me, trying to be accommodating right? well he flips out and he's like, No, whatever I'll just go by myself I'm not going to pay $20 dollars just to go hang out at the grounds so you can eat mini-donuts!
By the time he said that I was on the edge... I was biting my tongue, I hadn't said anything negative to him to feed the fire, and I was trying to be positive.. but I couldn't help it any longer, I blurted out, " Fine, you know what, we are going to go and you can stay at home and sulk on the couch all by yourself!"
He replied with " Good, at least I'll be alone." ... Then I lost it, I said, " Good I'm glad you like to be alone, because there is going to be more of that coming your way!" and then hung up the phone...
I JUST COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!! I TRIED to be the happy go-lucky girlfriend because the second he answered the phone I knew he was in his little "mood" but i just had to say something!! I haven't talked to him since, and I don't know what to do now... Should I answer the phone if he calls, do I talk to him, or should I make him realize that he was being a jerk and not answer the phone for a couple days???
ADVICE!! I think it may be time for a break....
*oh by the way i work out of town and only see him on the weekends so the phone is all we have!!!

Welcome to the board dreamergirl1985,
Yes your bf is being a jerk, and yes you should answer if he tries to call you. I also agree that is might be time for a break. There is simply no reason for you to treat you like that.
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Hi dreamergirl1985,
Here are your previous posts to help others catch up on your situation:
Are my expectations too high??
Light His Fire Book?
While he does seem to be being a jerk, hanging up on him (I know how frustrating it can be) will not help the situation.