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| Thu, 07-10-2008 - 9:24pm |
I made some bad decisions in my 2 year marriage of which the biggy is changing my mind about having kids a couple times. After our seperation I figured out through therapy that its really not about having kids its about our communication styles which causes me a lot of frustration and doubt about our relationship. We were together 24x7 as shes a writer and i a photog and thats caused some issues too. Being the writer shes very verbal and i on the other hand somewhat ADD and analytical. She can steam role me easily and i end up blowing up or shutting down... The last time i shut down for months and she moved out. Never really got the communication thing till now. So 4months later after recieving the divorce papers it snapped me out of my lil world and i went to see her. We've recently spent about 5 days/nights together over the course of 2.5 weeks and have had a wonderful, normal time, we've even showered together, slept together but no sex. It's obvious to both of us that we care a great deal for one another. She's always "very reluctant" to get together but when we do its really good. She says shes very confused and recently asked for a two week break which i gave her (well after one week i made and placed a 7ft string of gold marigolds in her mailbox as that was everywhere when we got married in India), a day later she finally sent me an email saying that they were beautiful and her heart stopped when she saw them and it brought back beautiful memories. I just asked her out for next week and she agreed but it takes sometimes a day or two to reply to me if at all. Shes mentioned actions speak loader than words so i am trying to show her that i am making progress with therapy (she refuses to go). Can i possibly win her trust back? why does she take so long to reply to me? Is she just trying to take it slow to see what happens and to protect her heart? I know these actions may seem obvious to women please give me your advice :-)

Welcome to the board lesv4700,
How's things going since you posted?
I think that her unwillingness to go to counseling with you shows she's not as interested in rebuilding the relationship as you are.