I just read all of your posts and I agree with you. You are high maintenance. the problems lie with you and your deep need for attention and your mistrust and jealousy.
I am 44...and my parents 63m/70d - just announced they are getting divorced.....so there goes some more of my emotional stability!
And I am the first one to say...that I have alot of growing up to do....I just come in here to vent and take what I can get....I like hearing that I am immature..because it makes me realize my errors more...and helps me to grow.
I think a lot of women (not just you) fall victim to the thinking of, "I did X Y and Z for my guy, so he should automatically assume he needs to do A B and C for ME in return"
I don't think it works that way, and I am CERTAIN that men don't think that way.
He doesn't deserve to be compared to your ex unless you're thinking of breaking up with him and making him an ex, as well. You seem very high strung, and yes perhaps he is non-confrontational, but I wonder how long he will want to put up with this? Do you think that perhaps you are, maybe not entirely for this reason, and maybe not entirely consciously, doing so much for him in order to keep him interested in you? From reading your other posts you fight over very trivial things for very trivial reasons. I have a tough time believing that this is the relationship you're living in when you DO give excellent advice to other people here.
It's really just a bird bath, you can find one online and have it shipped to you. This is not a tragedy that can't be dealt with. At the very least you went to the store and found something you liked, really it's not yours until you pay for it. So look it up online or have them order another for you.
You are right...I was thinking that today (I was thinking wtf is wrong with me! because)...I DO give good advice to others...Alot of times when I read what I write to others....before I hit post - I am like _ WHO IS THAT WRITTING THIS STUFF????
I have a g/f in a support group I attend...who is very together emotionally and she says numerous times in meetings - how much I have helped her and how she feels she wouldn't be where she is today without me.
Have you considered that maybe since you spend so much of your time giving to other people, there is a part of you that desperately wants to be selfish? And to TEST someone's unconditional love for you to see how far he would go? Your boyfriend sounds like a very patient man whose patience is wearing a little thin. You know exactly what is going on, you're being punishing and controlling. Very few of us have NOT been put in our place by spice.man at one point or another (haha) but it's valuable to have that input from a man who is defending his gender from things that women do that are unfair. For the record I have acted like that at many times in my life, though much more seldom now, and it's really embarrassing when you look back on it. I hope you know you can move forward from this and it's possible to focus on yourself without being self-centered or hurting someone else in the process. It takes a lot of thinking before you speak or act, sometimes.
misssy2, if you dont mind me throwing in my 2cents...from what I can see from all of your posts is that you are very frightened of him hurting you or disappointing you that when you see him slacking by not watching your back you get scared and then possibly pounce on him.
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I just read all of your posts and I agree with you. You are high maintenance. the problems lie with you and your deep need for attention and your mistrust and jealousy.
I am 44...and my parents 63m/70d - just announced they are getting divorced.....so there goes some more of my emotional stability!
And I am the first one to say...that I have alot of growing up to do....I just come in here to vent and take what I can get....I like hearing that I am immature..because it makes me realize my errors more...and helps me to grow.
I think a lot of women (not just you) fall victim to the thinking of, "I did X Y and Z for my guy, so he should automatically assume he needs to do A B and C for ME in return"
I don't think it works that way, and I am CERTAIN that men don't think that way.
He doesn't deserve to be compared to your ex unless you're thinking of breaking up with him and making him an ex, as well. You seem very high strung, and yes perhaps he is non-confrontational, but I wonder how long he will want to put up with this? Do you think that perhaps you are, maybe not entirely for this reason, and maybe not entirely consciously, doing so much for him in order to keep him interested in you? From reading your other posts you fight over very trivial things for very trivial reasons. I have a tough time believing that this is the relationship you're living in when you DO give excellent advice to other people here.
It's really just a bird bath, you can find one online and have it shipped to you. This is not a tragedy that can't be dealt with. At the very least you went to the store and found something you liked, really it's not yours until you pay for it. So look it up online or have them order another for you.
Misssy, do you understand that you are getting extremely close to being abusive towards your BF?
When was the last time he actually did something "right" by you?
It comes across as though you must always be - better than, greater than, more important than
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You are right...I was thinking that today (I was thinking wtf is wrong with me! because)...I DO give good advice to others...Alot of times when I read what I write to others....before I hit post - I am like _ WHO IS THAT WRITTING THIS STUFF????
I have a g/f in a support group I attend...who is very together emotionally and she says numerous times in meetings - how much I have helped her and how she feels she wouldn't be where she is today without me.
Wow - did you give me the slap in the face I needed!
Abusive??? ME.???
Part of what you said - there is a part of you that desperately wants to be selfish?
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