Leaving old baggage behind
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Leaving old baggage behind
| Thu, 07-17-2008 - 9:49am |
My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage and really happy in the place we are right now.
The problem is that about a year ago I found out he had cheated.

Couples counseling.
Did he stop only because you found out? You need to really move on, not just think that you have moved on because this still bothers you.
Welcome to the board emmylp2005,
Most couples cannot overcome betrayal and rebuild trust without going to counseling.
Welcome to the board emmylp2005,
I find it interesting that you say you are happy in the relationship and then you say that you haven't gotten past his cheating. I would hold off on the marriage talk until you have put all of this behind you.
Does he give you any reason to worry?
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Have you been to couples counseling?
Hi,
I has the same exact thing happen to me but
"Many people on these boards will tell you that you will never forget it and it will always be with you but that is BS"
None of the responses so far have come even close to saying that. So much for a preemptive strike, eh?
OP, I have to join the fray that says go to counseling together before getting married. For most people, trust is both gained and lost for real, legitimate reasons. It's ok to acknowledge that he hurt you and you lost your trust in him temporarily. Don't beat yourself up for not having completely gotten over it. I think it's very important for you to have a counselor or therapist with whom to share ideas so that you're not bottling them up or punishing your boyfriend with negative feelings. It will take a little more time to heal from this but stick with it.