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| Thu, 07-17-2008 - 10:53am |
I've been having this gut feeling that something is wrong in my relationship with my live-in boyfriend of almost 2 years.
| Thu, 07-17-2008 - 10:53am |
I've been having this gut feeling that something is wrong in my relationship with my live-in boyfriend of almost 2 years.
Welcome to the board confused_girl27,
Consider reading this to help you decide: 7 Legitimate Motives for Spying - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlrelationsh&msg=28189.1
Good luck to you. I agree that you need to know before you move.
Thank you both for your responses. I had read the 7 reasons to spy before but, as far as his e-mail is concerned, I just don't think I can do it.
I've been with cheaters and it's been my experience that they will deny everything and confirm nothing unless presented with proof.
Good thing the place is in your name only.
confused_girl, adding to what everyone else has said, it matters not that you figure out exactly what he's up to, and with who. What matters is that you don't trust him and he acts shady. When you said he was going to Vegas by himself, a big red flag flew up in my head.
There is a lot he doesn't want you to see. I am certain that you are right and he is living quite the private life outside of your relationship, regardless of you living together.
It would be wise to move separately once your lease is up. This is a really bad situation.
He is using your LEGITIMATE lack of trust for him as a weapon against you. If he had nothing to hide, he wouldn't be attacking you, he would let you explain your position and acknowledge your feelings. He would NOT fight you with "trust".
I have a very very strong feeling that this is not the best relationship for you to be in. It started out on a lie, and even then he couldn't really act like a man about it. Consider what an untrustworthy coward you are dating, and why you need to be here.