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Registered: 07-23-2008
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 11:59am

my wife has been suffering from depression for the past couple of years, and her sex drive is a lot lower than what it used to be. fine no problem. Obvioulsy i do not turn it down when the oppurtunity arises? how many guys would? so we'll have sex maybe 2-3 times a month. We have discussed it before but i had asked her not to resort to her "personal device" when the urge comes up, because it rarely does and i obviously want to be there when it does. So sunday that just past, get home in the evening we go to bed and 5 minutes into it the vibrator starts going off? i'm like what the f$$k is that? we figure out what it was, and then my ego is crashed.


I figured its been 3-4 weeks, why not wait for me if you feel your horny for the first time in 4 weeks for 5 minutes? understand i cannot compete with a vibrator as i am not naive, but i feel as though i've been pretty patient with everything and then she goes as does something like that? its hard not to feel rejected in a situation like this.


what is the dealio? please help...perhaps you can answer to theheadoffice@yahoo.com because i'm not sure if i'll ever find this thread again? lol

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: livin_the_dream
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 1:14pm

Welcome to the board livin.the.dream,


Is your wife in counseling or on meds?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: livin_the_dream
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 2:24pm

Welcome to the board,


Did you ask her why she resorted to using the vibrator? She going to any counseling or on any medication for her depression?