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| Sat, 11-08-2008 - 10:12pm |
I'm writing here on behalf of my friend's marriage problem. Recently he got married for 2 months. He had undergone a operation during his teenage

Welcome to the board sitra109,
Assigning guilt won't change the facts that they must deal with.
Both of them want to be together but now currently they are staying separate. His wife feel depressed because she can't conceive and feeling the society will blame her as infertile for her husband's health problem.
Now her parents would like to talk to them because came to any decision.They do not know what to talk and what will happen in future. If both of their parents decide to talk no one is sure what are the outcome will be.
She could not accept to adopt a child because it won't be the same as their own child and she does not give any confirm answers on other method to be pregnant such as IVF treatment.
In this case what should they do. Anyone please help.
Welcome to the board,
This is a problem between your friend and his wife.
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First of all, it is up to this couple to find the answers to their own situation. It's not about who is or who is not guilty, it's about them getting into couple therapy together to work out what happened. He didn't really lie to her, as he was not fully informed of his condition. I can understand how shocked and upset she is, but she can also have artificial insemination, using her own egg and another sperm. There are many things that can be worked out if children are very important here.
I don't know if they asked you to ask these questions, but, as I said, it's up to them to get help together, to talk about and work through their feelings and find a solution to the issues they face.
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They still talk to each other for a while over the phone and she is more angry with her mother in law & father in law. It looks like both of them want to be together but she did not gave any confirm answers when they can be together again. She only says wait & see.
Most probably if they want to be together his parents should be out of their way.Should he gave his wife time to cool down before invite her to stay back together?
My friend's wife came back and stay with him but only for a very short period. Both of them had some quarrel and due to this she separate again and later on after a few months she told she don't want to come back again.
Both of their parents had a talk to separate in a friendly manner but upon arranging for a talk, the woman and their parents talked very rudely and blackmailing by friend's family.Although they are not interested to stay together but they are more interested in the money than anything else.They also had spread a lot of lie information to the people around about my friend's family & she never told to anyone she came back to her parents house because she had a quarrel but she told a lot of lie to many people.
Although in the beginning my friend feel a bit sad, but later once he know his wife true character, he is happy he had escaped from her and both of them agreed for a separation.
They are demanding the whole property of my friend's family. Since they can't have a mutual agreement now the case is pending on wait & see. Now the problem in this case is only money matter. The woman's family seem's to waiting for the money before can ask for a divorce. My friend's family are very careful in this matter now since they know the woman's family attitude that cannot be trusted.
In this situation what is the best thing can be done? Should he just wait & see or start to take any action? Please help
Sitra, as with all property disputes, your friend needs to seek legal advice.