I'm sorry, I would also leave with no questions asked. He has no desire to be faithful to you and he clearly thinks very lowly of the idea of family. In which case, it makes me sad that he's a father. That would sincerely bother me. He's also exposing his PREGNANT WIFE to STDs. How does THAT one make you feel?
Forgiveness is fine but if you keep going back to the same guy you'll keep getting the same thing, and the fault will be yours.
Remember that this is the role model whose traits your daughter will look for in a man when she's older. Would you wish this upon her?
Pornography and sexual addictions are serious diseases. I don't know how the two of you are handling it, but it is absolutely necessary that your husband have therapy and also be in appropriate sexual addiction recovery support groups. There is an entire program needed to handle this addiction and unless he is truly committed to the program, disciplined and working with others, there is little chance he will overcome it. Fogiveness is fine, but it is not enough. Also, it is not enough to want to stop. He must face the fact that he has a serious illness and do all that is possible to overcome it, with professional help.
In addition to, and actually, BEFORE any of the other advice you received can even stand a chance of taking hold, HE must WANT to change, and he must want the help.
I'm sorry, I would also leave with no questions asked. He has no desire to be faithful to you and he clearly thinks very lowly of the idea of family. In which case, it makes me sad that he's a father. That would sincerely bother me. He's also exposing his PREGNANT WIFE to STDs. How does THAT one make you feel?
Forgiveness is fine but if you keep going back to the same guy you'll keep getting the same thing, and the fault will be yours.
Remember that this is the role model whose traits your daughter will look for in a man when she's older. Would you wish this upon her?
Welcome to the board desperatewife_mom,
Sorry you are going through this.
Pornography and sexual addictions are serious diseases. I don't know how the two of you are handling it, but it is absolutely necessary that your husband have therapy and also be in appropriate sexual addiction recovery support groups. There is an entire program needed to handle this addiction and unless he is truly committed to the program, disciplined and working with others, there is little chance he will overcome it. Fogiveness is fine, but it is not enough. Also, it is not enough to want to stop. He must face the fact that he has a serious illness and do all that is possible to overcome it, with professional help.
Otherwise, this will keep happening.
Best wishes,
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In addition to, and actually, BEFORE any of the other advice you received can even stand a chance of taking hold, HE must WANT to change, and he must want the help.
Oh honey, I'm so sorry you're going through this.