my bf doesnt want to do it
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my bf doesnt want to do it
| Tue, 11-11-2008 - 3:30pm |
My bf and I havent been physical for 4 months now. We live together for almost 1 1/2 year. We had a discussion about this before and he said because he is afraid I will get pregnant. Back in Feb. I had an incident where my menstrual cycle came 1 week later. Since then, I've been on the pills but everything in terms of physical action went down hill. He knows I am on the pills. I am not sure how to fix this problem. Any suggestions would be grealy appreciated. I do want to suggest to him to try it with me but I am scared he will say no or reject it.
I guess I just don't know how to approach such an issue.

Welcome to the board pyc529,
First if you have tried intiating sex with him I would try that first. Then if he still doesn't seem interested it is time to tell you that you need to talk about the issue. If he says he is afraid of getting you pregnant than remind him that you are on birth control pills and also that he can use a condom.
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Physical intimacy is a very crucial part of a couple's life, and when it is absent it is easy to feel rejected, unwanted and not desirable. Unless there is physical intimacy, he is not a boyfriend, but a friend. Clearly, he has a problem about this and it has nothing to do with you, but with his own fears. You can gently let him know that this is an important part of a romantic relationship for you, and without it, it is just a friendship. If he is still unwilling or unable to make a move in this direction, then I suggest you realize what the relationship is, and move on to find someone who can give you the fulfillment you most certainly deserve.
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