Lying about Porn...again

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Registered: 03-17-2008
Lying about Porn...again
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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 1:39pm
We have had a problem with this for a very long time, before we were even married. He told me he was not looking at porn anymore before we got married. I found dvds a week later. Well, long story short, it never stopped. Even when I try to be more open-minded about it and told
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Registered: 11-17-2008
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 2:24pm
I feel for you.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 3:10pm

Welcome to the board goddess_kitten20,


You will have to decide if this is a deal breaker for you and what you bottomline is.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 6:40pm
I agree with itwinflame. Take some time to decide once and for all whether or not this is a deal-breaker for you. You've been living with it for a long time and managed to get through it, now's the point where you need to decide if you can live with this and not get upset about it, or if you have to divorce over it. I wish it wasn't so but realistically these are your only options. You have to assume that he's going to look at porn whether he's being straightforward about it or not - the reason he lies is because he knows it upsets you. But he's not going to stop, and so getting upset and angry is only hurting YOU and not doing anything to make your relationship better. So, is porn bad enough to end a relationship over? Think about it.
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Registered: 08-30-2008
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 7:27pm
the lying should not be tolerated.